Multiple personality disorder
Multiple personality disorder (MPD) is a chronic (recurring frequently) emotional illness. A person with MPD plays host to two or more personalities (called alters). Each alter has its own unique style of viewing and understanding the world and may have its own name. These distinct personalities periodically control that person's behavior as if several people were alternately sharing the same body.
MPD occurs about eight times more frequently in women than in men. Some researchers believe that because men with MPD tend to act more violently than women, they are jailed rather than hospitalized and, thus, never diagnosed. Female MPD patients often have more identities than men, averaging fifteen as opposed to eight for males.
Causes of multiple personality disorder
Most people diagnosed with MPD were either physically or sexually abused as children. Many times when a young child is severely abused, he or she becomes so detached from reality that what is happening may seem more like a movie or television show than real life. This self-hypnotic state, called disassociation, is a defense mechanism that protects the child from feeling overwhelmingly intense emotions. Disassociation blocks off these thoughts and emotions so that the child is unaware of them. In effect, they become secrets, even from the child. According to the American Psychiatric Association, many MPD patients cannot remember much of their childhoods.
Not all children who are severely and repeatedly abused develop multiple personality disorder. However, if the abuse is repeatedly extreme and the child does not have enough time to recover emotionally, the disassociated thoughts and feelings may begin to take on lives of their own. Each cluster of thoughts tends to have a common emotional theme such as anger, sadness, or fear. Eventually, these clusters develop into full-blown personalities, each with its own memory and characteristics.
Symptoms of the disorder
A person diagnosed with MPD can have as many as a hundred or as few as two separate personalities. (About half of the recently reported cases have ten or fewer.) These different identities can resemble the normal personality of the person or they may take on that of a different age, sex, or race. Each alter can have its own posture, set of gestures, and hair-style, as well as a distinct way of dressing and talking. Some may speak in foreign languages or with an accent. Sometimes alters are not human, but are animals or imaginary creatures.
The process by which one of these personalities reveals itself and controls behavior is called switching. Most of the time the change is sudden and takes only seconds. Sometimes it can take hours or days. Switching is often triggered by something that happens in the patient's environment, but personalities can also come out under hypnosis (a trancelike state in which a person becomes very responsive to suggestions of others).
Words to Know
Alter: Alternate personality that has split off or disassociated from the main personality, usually after severe childhood trauma.
Disassociation: Separation of a thought process or emotion from conscious awareness.
Hypnosis: Trance state during which people are highly vulnerable to the suggestions of others.
Personality: Group of characteristics that motivates behavior and sets us apart from other individuals.
Switching: Process by which an alternate personality reveals itself and controls behavior.
Trauma: An extremely severe emotional shock.
Sometimes the most powerful alter serves as the gatekeeper and tells the weaker alters when they may reveal themselves. Other times alters fight each other for control. Most patients with MPD experience long periods during which their normal personality, called the main or core personality, remains in charge. During these times, their lives may appear normal.
Ninety-eight percent of people with MPD have some degree of amnesia when an alter surfaces. When the main personality takes charge once again, the time spent under control of an alter is completely lost to memory. In a few instances, the host personality may remember confusing bits and pieces of the past. In some cases alters are aware of each other, while in others they are not.
One of the most baffling mysteries of MPD is how alters can sometimes show very different biological characteristics from the host and from each other. Several personalities sharing one body may have different heart rates, blood pressures, body temperatures, pain tolerances, and eyesight abilities. Different alters may have different reactions to medications. Sometimes a healthy host can have alters with allergies and even asthma.
Treatment
MPD does not disappear without treatment, although the rate of switching seems to slow down in middle age. The most common treatment for MPD is long-term psychotherapy twice a week. During these sessions, the therapist must develop a trusting relationship with the main personality and each of the alters. Once that is established, the emotional issues of each personality regarding the original trauma are addressed. The main and alters are encouraged to communicate with each other in order to integrate or come together. Hypnosis is often a useful tool to accomplish this goal. At the same time, the therapist helps the patient to acknowledge and accept the physical or sexual abuse he or she endured as a child and to learn new coping skills so that disassociation is no longer necessary.
About one-half of all people being treated for MPD require brief hospitalization, and only 5 percent are primarily treated in psychiatric hospitals. Sometimes mood-altering medications such as tranquilizers or antidepressants are prescribed for MPD patients. The treatment of MPD lasts an average of four years.
with MPD don't remember much of their childhood. I would describe
my childhood memory as being like a piece of Swiss cheese. I can't seem to remember anything about my earliest years before
Kindergarden. My childhood years from Kindergarden on there are
gaps in my memory thus the description of my childhood memory being like a slice of Swiss cheese.
Also one term not included was SO, or significant other. In this case it means that special person in the life of a person who has DID who sticks it out and stays with them.
with so much usefull information in it...!!!
That certainly sounds frustrating and he is lucky to have someone as concerned and committed as you are. I am fortunate enough not to have several personalities but The combination of my several disorders can make for quite an interesting episode.
All through your writting I was wondering about his meds and when you explained his resistance to them, the instability made sence. My guess is that being told to take his meds from you will fall on deaf ears. Meds generallly have uncomfortable side effects (Especially is they are not regulated). Meds also destroy the "high" that comes in a manic or altered state. Personally, I love being in a manic state even though I am impulsive and tend to get in trouble. It's the after effect that is painful. Coming down for a emotional high is increadably painful. Does he have a p-doc he can talk to? Where I live, there is a free mental health service and all my worker does in check in to make sure all is well. If things aren't well with me, then she makes sure there is a plan in place to support me. Possibly a local community center program. You may find that someone he is not as close to will have more ability to convince him to take his meds.
In closing, I certainly don't envy your position. I certain have put my supports through alot and although I don't always tell them, I would not be able to make it withou them.
Hope that helps
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I also want to say, especially to Tabby, and any others who are the adult children of a person with MPD, that I have been trying to form a group just for them- do please contact me! This is not be a group for talking about 'helping' the person with MPD, there are enough of those! What we need, and what I want to have, is a group for people who have grown up as the child of a parent (or other primary caretaker)with MPD, whether it was your mom or dad. I think we deserve
a place of our own to talk about our experiences and the difficulties, etc. of growing up as the child of someone with MPD- we deserve companionship and understanding, too! My mom died quite a while ago now, yet I find that her having been MPD really affected my life in many ways. I think it would help us all to have someone who can understand what it's like because they've 'been there' too! It's just not something you can tell the average person, even some whom you might consider friends, about... So do email me. I call the group 'Adult Children of Multiples.'
(first known as 'Ad. Chdrn of Multiplicity.')
Her father has since died at age 49 and she tells me she would like me to die too. It is so upsetting that i must keep my distance. with escorting she has travelled to Spain, India, Turkey and keeps vanishing and i report her to the police as i am worried for her health. any advice welcomed
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter, Janet. Try not to be afraid of her, though you definitely should be cautious. She is still your daughter, and her personalities are a part of her. Do your best to get her help.
There is actually a new personality in our mind now. His name is Silence, and like the name suggests, he doesn't talk. The main personality doesn't know about him yet.
Hi, I'm not realy sure were to start,or even if I should start, My wife of 15 years has, including her own, 21 distinct personality's, I meet the all on a regular basis,most days I will see two or three, if we have a day together such as at the weekend I can meet as many as 6, I won't go into how they were braught about, that's well documented. I adore them all. for now I can't procede. Please don't use my name. there arn't many people with that name. and it makes me too easy to find.
I'll try to keep this as short as I can.
The one thing I do know is that each personality has been created to protect and keep her safe.
most of them have had many traumas but have only retained the memory of one, the one that they have not been able to forget has been one that as a child they could not understand, once this trauma has been revisited and understood as an adult, without exception they have been able to move on.
We have now been able to release all of her personalities and they are all moving on and having a happy life. They are becoming better connected to each other yet remaining quite different, they all insist they do not want to become one as we understand it.
My wife is a very intelligent capable extremely sociable person whom everyone adores.
I could write pages and pages on this but wont.
I think my message to all is not to be afraid of your others, they are no more or less than parts of you that have been sectioned off to protect you from past events.
All they need is to be understood, loved, accepted and trusted. A bit like all the rest of us really.
I agree with you, people who have this and live without any problems, when they can handle their lifestyle and be supported by people around them should be left to do as they please...
But, by your speech, you seem to be an alter of someone, or at least a part of a balanced person (when there's no "alter" and "main", when they're just various different personalities with the same "level"), aren't you?
And, also, I read this because my girlfriend has this, but in their case they're about 10 for what I know. I know most of them, and get on well with them (although some of them are really scary, threatening my life/body all the time). She has had many problems in her life, and these girls (well, one of them is a man, although i don't know him yet) helped her get through all of that, and sometimes help me take good care of her, so I have to agree with Yuki. I don't want them to go away, and neither does she. In our case only she and I know about them, because they have an agreement, so they will not come out in front of other people, or,, when they are forced out, they will try and act like the "main" one. Most people wouldnt be able to tell them appart, but with all the time i've spent with them, i can even recognize them by their voice or their face expression. Biologically, they're all almost the same, only pain tolerance changes, and the fact that my girfriend usually passes out because of low blood pressure, and I have never seen any of the girls suffer that ^-^ But in the psychologycal side, there are lots of differences. For example, not all of the girls know how to speak english (spanish speaking country), one of them knows a little japanese, they like different stuff, and many other things.
But, something that is not normally informed, is that she shares with them a "physical" space within her own mind, you could think of it as a huge room where they all live when they're not in control of the body. There they can talk, sleep, play, and watch the actions of the one in control through a "TV". Almost the same that in a Manga (japanese comic) called "Change 123 (or Change HiFuMi)". That's how they got to the agreement, and how they know a lot about the other girls. It's almost as if they were different people living together.
There is romance, sex, and some other things going on inside there, even, just to show you how much similar to real life that is.
I have to say, it can be very tyring having to deal with this, but if you know how to appreciate it, it's a unique experience, it makes her so much more special than any other person...
(And it's also really helpful when there's a problem i cant handle alone with her, I always have someone to explain things to me and help me with everything, or telling me her secrets ;] )
It's very relieving to find this page and knowing that we're not alone.
well, @nic, as long as the other party doesnt have any tendecy to hurt herself then i guess it should be ok. Here there is one like that, leaving scars in my wrist(kinda awkward when people see that and think i'm some lost lamb in despair or just a stupid junkie). So keep the other party away from sharp objects, i suppose~
My best friend's also an mpd-er and he's doing fine with his boyfriend.
But of course, boyfriends or girlfriends, husbands or wives, there's nobody who could replace our alters, 'eh?
And i wonder. This is the longest comment box ever i've seen for an article, would it be appropriate if i continue to post? Or there is actually a forum? (the link below seems not right, though the title seems right). Ha3. Imagine. A forum for this. A group of twisted people.
That's really cruel. Why would you say such a thing, nyaro?
If you're here to insult people, please go away.
We told her months ago, nyan.
I am the host for Kasumi, and I must agree with her statement.
You cannot reasonably declare a group twisted simply due to the fact that the collective members have something considered to be an abnormality when lined up against societal norms. The fact that you would make such a statement indicates that you seem to have an issue; I will not presume to act as if I know at the current time what that is and I would like to think that there is a more personal reason. I will not be presumptuous enough to make any asumptions (incorrectly typed on purpose due to word filter) without asking, so I must inquire of you: What is the basis, aside from the disorder, from which you make the claim that the constituent members of the group are twisted? Abnormal, sure, weird, perhaps, but twisted? You exaggerate, sir. As some of the preceeding comments have shown, this affliction, if you must view it negatively, is not necessarily negative at all. In fact, it is of great asistance (again, misspelled on purpose to avoid the filter) to me, and I must say that it's quite an interesting experience. I realize that many cases negatively impact the lives of those who have this disorder, but it is stereotyping to state that all persons with said abnormality are twisted.
My definition of twisted in this instance is based upon the negative connotation of the word when applied to humans, as implied by your statement and phrasing. If you did not mean to insult, then I offer my apologies. Otherwise, would you kindly consider leaving the premises if you have nothing positive to contribute? Thank you for your time, and I hope you do not take personal offense at our objections.
Afterthought: Kasumi is my elder by three years.
I'm an aspiring teen hoping to become a writer and I had an idea for a fiction novel about a guy with 2 personalities. I came to this site looking for info and found it very helpful. I find it very unsympathetic for some people to say that this "disorder" doesn't exist or that people are faking it. Reading alter's comments prove that these are real people, and should not be treated like inferiors. It's inspiring to me to read about how "mains" can co-exist with their alters.
Anyways, I was hoping to learn more info to help me write my book, because I want it to be accurate enough so that people could understand what it would really be like having another personality, but I myself know little about the subject. For instance, is it possible for someone who needs glasses to have an alter who doesn't? Or what kind of traits could an altar have in common with the main personnality? How would one describe the switch from one personality to another, could it happen during sleep?
These are some of my questions, and I would appreciate any answers because I want my book to be interesting but also respect people who have or are alters. Thank you all.
I'm an aspiring teen hoping to become a writer and I had an idea for a fiction novel about a guy with 2 personalities. I came to this site looking for info and found it very helpful. I find it very unsympathetic for some people to say that this "disorder" doesn't exist or that people are faking it. Reading alter's comments prove that these are real people, and should not be treated like inferiors. It's inspiring to me to read about how "mains" can co-exist with their alters.
Anyways, I was hoping to learn more info to help me write my book, because I want it to be accurate enough so that people could understand what it would really be like having another personality, but I myself know little about the subject. For instance, is it possible for someone who needs glasses to have an alter who doesn't? Or what kind of traits could an altar have in common with the main personnality? How would one describe the switch from one personality to another, could it happen during sleep?
These are some of my questions, and I would appreciate any answers because I want my book to be interesting but also respect people who have or are alters. Thank you all.
I would like to know if she was a "normal" MPD "host" because of who the personalities were. No 1 was her mother, my grand mother who was deceased and had been long before I was born. No 2 was my mothers deceased sister, who died only being days old, and who I am named after. No 3 im not so sure I would like to say at this time.
Has anyone else heard of this?? I would love to find out more, was this MPD or a mental heath issue?
This caught in between stage can go on for 4 hours or more sometimes days.
And by the way, michael, the only safe way to get an alter back is hypnosis. The not safe , painful way is by experiencing the trauma back. And actually, i think, subs-consciously, they are always there for a reason. If someone is gone, then it means he is not needed anymore.
I agree with many of the people here that have commented, even when I personally don't have MPD, when they say that it is offensive to just outright claim people to be "sick" or have a disease when they don't understand half of what they are talking about. It doesn't seem fair and it greatly bothers me, but I will do my best to voice this to my classmates when I do my presentation.
Thank you for having this information up and I will be sure to properly site where I got it from. Also thank you to the people that are willing to put their stories here for us to know about and it has helped me to further understand what MPD does to someone.
Personally, I'd like to get to know most of the people that have commented here, even the alters, because you all seem like pretty interesting people. I'm also interested in learning even more about this occurance, even as a simple 16 year old high school student.
Aero is 20 years old now, from the country Nurolea. He first started out as Shadow Fox, just a fox made out of shadow, helping David (my boyfriend) with his fear of the dark. Over the years he eventually got a real name, Aeroxeph Desmond Markel. I named my fish after him =D. It has gotten to the point that Aero has relatives, and visits his country and used to be King of Nurolea, but he didn't like the responsibility. Aero can be tempermental, I can usually tell it's him when he's being grouchy. That doesn't make him a bad person though. He's very protective of David and I, like a strict father I guess.
And then there's Rani Cordova Delterra, she met David and Aero last year when David was struggling with school. She's an exchange student from Spain, and sometimes speaks Spanish to me randomly even though David knows none, and I'm like "what."
They live in a cottage by a lake, that's how David describes his mind. They all live together and no one else is allowed in it, because Aero won't allow it. He fends off bad alters to protect him.
I can tell them apart, they all have different voices and body language. David is quiet and sensitive, Rani has a mousier voice and is more feminine. Aero's voice is very deep and holds himself very respectably.
He used to be ashamed of Aero, and didn't tell anyone for so long. After he told me and I said it wasn't a big deal, due to the fact that I took Psychology and was understanding, it gave him more confidence and started telling the people he was close with. Now the majority of our friends know and they're all intrigued by it. His parents still don't know, we don't think they'd be very understanding. Neither I or the 3 of him don't think he needs help, Rani and Aero have been most helpful, and David wouldn't be the same without them.
I am multiple. Thank you all for sharing your experiences and ideas. My daughter and I have made a list of my alters. There are 19 of us so far. I hope this will post. I have tried 4 times already.
This seems like something very real and very difficult to go through. I'll be praying for you, and I know know know that Jesus heals and restores, there are no problems too big or too small for Him!!! Talk to a Christian counselor if you can!
Be blessed!
I hope that didnt sound creepy >.
im not sure if i have a MPD but i do know that I have 3 different personalities at the moment. I dont suffer from any memory loss what so ever and you could say i use each of my different personalities in different situations. Yes, they do have different names and mentality ages but i never really thought of them as a set age. Its really weird but you could say i create these different personalities and they help me live through daily life. They are different and distinct with different aims in life but i'm not sure if its a MPD or if its me acting cos i enjoy drama and acting. And also, more alters pop up when i face a deliemma and there's always one in power and a new one seems to pop up about every two years. By the way, i'm 15 so when i was 10, my first alter appeared, at 12, another one appeared and at 14, another one appeared.
I wanted to ask that if a person has too much loneliness, can she or he has D.I.D?
And, can someone who never been abuse has D.I.D?
Can D.I.D recover by itself?
Thanks for reading, hopefully you can answer my questions.
As the former name implies, MPD/DID is a mental condition in which 2 or more personalities appear to inhabit a single body. A simple definition of DID by two conservative Christian counselors, Arthur Zeilstra and Janet Howden, is:
"Dissociation is an act of disconnecting, locking the memory or pain in a 'suitcase' and storing the 'suitcase' in the back of the brain. Dissociation Identity Disorder is the phenomena of completely disconnecting oneself from a memory (or memories) and the emotions around the memory(ies), creating a separate identity to hold memories and emotions." 1
Bob Larson of Bob Larson Ministries, a fundamentalist counter-cult, and anti-Occult group, defines MPD as follows:
"MPD is a mental condition in which the personality becomes fragmented ("dissociated") into two or more distinct identities, each of which may become dominant and control behavior from time to time to the exclusion of the others. These identities are called "alter personalities" (often simply "alters") and each maintains its own integrity of characteristics and habits. Each has its own age, name, sex, intelligence, and personal tastes." 2
A minority of mental health professionals accepted MPD/DID as a real phenomenon during the 1980s and early 1990s. Very few continue this belief today. Most professional therapists believe that it is an iatrogenic (physician induced) disorder that either does not appear naturally, or is almost non-existent. However, belief in MPD/DID is still commonly found among conservative Christian counselors, perhaps because it meshes so well with their concept of Satan, demons, and demonic possession.
As the former name implies, MPD/DID is a mental condition in which 2 or more personalities appear to inhabit a single body. A simple definition of DID by two conservative Christian counselors, Arthur Zeilstra and Janet Howden, is:
"Dissociation is an act of disconnecting, locking the memory or pain in a 'suitcase' and storing the 'suitcase' in the back of the brain. Dissociation Identity Disorder is the phenomena of completely disconnecting oneself from a memory (or memories) and the emotions around the memory(ies), creating a separate identity to hold memories and emotions." 1
Bob Larson of Bob Larson Ministries, a fundamentalist counter-cult, and anti-Occult group, defines MPD as follows:
"MPD is a mental condition in which the personality becomes fragmented ("dissociated") into two or more distinct identities, each of which may become dominant and control behavior from time to time to the exclusion of the others. These identities are called "alter personalities" (often simply "alters") and each maintains its own integrity of characteristics and habits. Each has its own age, name, sex, intelligence, and personal tastes." 2
A minority of mental health professionals accepted MPD/DID as a real phenomenon during the 1980s and early 1990s. Very few continue this belief today. Most professional therapists believe that it is an iatrogenic (physician induced) disorder that either does not appear naturally, or is almost non-existent. However, belief in MPD/DID is still commonly found among conservative Christian counselors, perhaps because it meshes so well with their concept of Satan, demons, and demonic possession.
Some Roman Catholics and conservative Protestant Christians believe that the symptoms of MPD are created by multiple, indwelling demons or "unclean spirits" as mentioned frequently in the Christian Scriptures (New Testament). The appropriate method of treatment is to exorcise the demons. They would disagree with any therapy that involves actually talking to the demons/alters.
Finally, a few individuals believe that MPD is a naturally occurring phenomenon, and unrelated to childhood abuse or creation by an iatrogenic process. As one web site describes it, MPD is a gift.
Judging by certain developments during the 1990s:
Increasing numbers of malpractice suits against MPD specialists,
Increasing numbers of cancellations of MPD therapists' licenses to practice,
A drop in membership of their professional organization, the International Society for the Study of Dissociation (ISSD),
Decreasing numbers of new books being written on MPD/DID therapeutic methods,
The closing of all 28 MPD/DID specialist clinics in North America,
the skeptical position appears to be gaining acceptance in the culture.
In time, MPD/DID will probably be relegated to the trash heap of mental health techniques, along with recovered memory therapy, and frontal lobotomies.
Memory and other aspects of consciousness are said to be divided up among "alters" in the MPD. The number of "alters" identified by various therapists ranges from several to tens to hundreds. There are even some reports of several thousand identities dwelling in one person. There does not seem to be any consensus among therapists as to what an "alter" is. Yet, there is general agreement that the cause of MPD is repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse. The evidence for this claim has been challenged, however, and there are very few reported cases of MPD afflicting children.
Psychologist Nicholas P. Spanos argues that repressed memories of childhood abuse and multiple personality disorder are "rule-governed social constructions established, legitimated, and maintained through social interaction." In short, Spanos argues that most cases of MPD have been created by therapists with the cooperation of their patients and the rest of society. The experts have created both the disease and the cure. This does not mean that MPD does not exist, but that its origin and development are often, if not most often, explicable without the model of separate but permeable ego-states or "alters" arising out of the ashes of a destroyed "original self."
...the evidence is now voluminous that there are not a handful or a hundred but thousands of cases of MPD diagnosed today, and it almost invariably owes its existence to prolonged early childhood abuse, usually sexual, and of sickening severity. Nicholas Humphrey and I investigated MPD several years ago ["Speaking for Our Selves: An Assessment of Multiple Personality Disorder," Raritan, 9, pp. 68-98] and found it to be a complex phenomenon that extends far beyond individual brains and the sufferers.
These children have often been kept in such extraordinary terrifying and confusing circumstances that I am more amazed that they survive psychologically at all than I am that they manage to preserve themselves by a desperate redrawing of their boundaries. What they do, when confronted with overwhelming conflict and pain, is this: They "leave." They create a boundary so that the horror doesn't happen to them; it either happens to no one, or to some other self, better able to sustain its organization under such an onslaught--at least that's what they say they did, as best they recall.
Dennett exhibits minimal skepticism about the truth of the MPD accounts, and focuses on how they can be explained metaphysically and biologically. For all his brilliant exploration of the concept of the self, the one perspective he doesn't seem to give much weight to is the one Spanos takes: that the self and the multiple selves of the MPD patient are social constructs, not needing a metaphysical or biological explanation so much as a social-psychological one. That is not to say that our biology is not a significant determining factor in the development of our ideas about selves, including our own self. It is to say, however, that before we go off worrying about how to metaphysically explain one or a hundred selves in one body, or one self in a hundred bodies, we might want to consider that a phenomenological analysis of behavior which takes that behavior at face value, or which attributes it to nothing but brain structure and biochemistry, may be missing the most significant element in the creation of the self: the sociocognitive context in which our ideas of self, disease, personality, memory, etc., emerge. Being a social construct does not make the self any less real, by the way. And Spanos should not be taken to deny either that the self exists or that MPD exists.
But if thinkers of Dennett's stature accept MPD as something which needs explaining in terms of psychological dynamics limited to the psyche of the abused rather than in terms of social constructs, the task of convincing therapists who treat MPD to accept Spanos' way of thinking is Herculean. How could it be possible that most MPD patients have been created in the therapist's laboratory, so to speak? How could it be possible that so many people, particularly female people [85% of MPD patients are female], could have so many false memories of childhood sexual abuse? How could so many people behave as if their bodies have been invaded by numerous entities or personalities, if they hadn't really been so invaded? How could so many people actually experience past lives under hypnosis, a standard procedure of some therapists who treat MPD? How could the defense mechanism explanation for MPD, in terms of repression of childhood sexual trauma and dissociation, not be correct? How could so many people be so wrong about so much? Spanos' answer makes it sound almost too easy for such a massive amount of self-deception and delusion to develop: it's happened before and we all know about it. Remember demonic possession?
Most educated people today believe that the behaviors of witches and other possessed persons--as well as the behaviors of their tormentors, exorcists, and executioners--were enactments of social roles. With the exception of religious fundamentalists (who still live in the world of demons, witches, and supernatural magic), educated people do not believe that in those days there really were witches, or that demons really did invade bodies, or that priests really did exorcise those demons by their ritualistic magic. Yet, for those who lived in the time of witches and demons, these beings were as real as anything else they experienced. In Spanos' view, what is true of the world of demons and exorcists is true of the psychological world filled with phenomena such as repression of childhood sexual trauma and its manifestation in such disorders as MPD.
Multiple selves exist, and have existed in other cultures, without being related to the notion of a mental disorder, as is the case today in North America. According to Spanos, "Multiple identities can develop in a wide variety of cultural contexts and serve numerous different social functions." Neither childhood sexual abuse nor mental disorder is a necessary condition for multiple personality to manifest itself. Multiple personalities are best understood as "rule-governed social constructions." They "are established, legitimated, maintained, and altered through social interaction." In a number of different historical and social contexts, people have learned to think of themselves as "possessing more than one identity or self, and can learn to behave as if they are first one identity and then a different identity." However, "people are unlikely to think of themselves in this way or to behave in this way unless their culture has provided models from whom the rules and characteristics of multiple identity enactments can be learned. Along with providing rules and models, the culture, through its socializing agents, must also provide legitimation for multiple self enactments." Again, Spanos is not saying that MPD does not exist, but that the standard model of (a) abuse, (b) withdrawal of original self, and then (c) emergence of alters, is not needed to explain MPD. Nor is the psychological baggage that goes with that model: repression, recovered memory of childhood sexual abuse, integration of alters in therapy. Nor are the standard diagnostic techniques: hypnosis, including past life regression, and Rorschach tests.
MPD/DID is extremely controversial. As in the case of Recovered Memory Therapy (RMT) Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA), beliefs about destructive and mind control cults, abuse during UFO abductions, etc., almost all experts in the field are deeply polarized into two groups, which we call:
"Skeptics: - those who believe that MPD is a psychological fad. It is either non-existent or phenomenally rare in nature. It is a disorder that has an iatrogenic cause; it is unknowingly created by the therapist-patient interaction. Thousands of victims have been generated by bad therapy.
"Believers" - those who see MPD as a very serious public mental health problem affecting perhaps 1% of the population. These are further divided into:
"Secular believers"
Most are humanistic therapists and feminist counselors who believe that MPD is quite common, is caused by severe abuse during childhood, and can be resolved by re-integrating the alters into the dominant personality through therapy.
Some believe that MPD occurs naturally, without any therapist involvement, and is unrelated to childhood abuse.
"Religious believers" - typically some Roman Catholics, Fundamentalist and other Evangelical Christians who view MPD as a byproduct of demon possession that can only be cured through exorcism.
As in so many other therapeutic controversies, it is imperative that we reach a consensus on MPD quickly in order to minimize continuing harm to the public:
If MPD is an iatrogenic (therapist caused) disorder which does not naturally appear in society, then it is important that exorcisms and MPD therapy be discontinued, to avoid creating additional victims.
If MPD is real, if alters exist, and if the disorder is caused by severe child abuse, then attempted exorcisms by religious believers could exacerbate the victims' suffering. Activities by skeptics could prevent victims from receiving proper therapy.
If MPD is real, occurs naturally, is not a disorder, and is unrelated to childhood abuse, then it should be appreciated and studied; persons with MPD should be valued, not treated.
If MPD is real and is caused by indwelling demonic spirits, then psychotherapy to integrate the alters could cause great harm. Attacks by skeptics could prevent victims from seeking release through exorcisms.
1) Journal. Start with one journal and see if you find any other entries that you don't recall writing. Read to what they're saying, or interput thier drawings, its their feelings and what's important to them.
2) Video Journal, this way you can see what they look like. Yes, its you but each have thier own gesture, facial expressions, etc..
3) Make them safe. Let them know that you will protect them and that the person that did hurt them will never hurt them again.
4) Talk to them eternally. Get to know them, they're all aspects and fragments of you, just displaced and once merged will still have all that insight to offer.
5) Try and get in touch with the children, with an excerise called left to right hand writing. Which ever hand you right with is the adult (or adults), the opposite hand is the child (or children). Ask questions like their name, age, how their feeling etc. Answer with the opposite hand. You will clearly see the writing and drawings of a small child (for those that don't believe it, its a metphorical excersise).
I found these to be very useful and do them daily. Since doing this form of "SELF" help (can't afford counselling), I've had less switching and less triggers, flashbacks and panic attacks.
He will from time to time go to his mom's house and spend time with family but that doesn't seem to happen very often. I see him/"A" about twice a month - his choice. The time in between I'll ask him why he didn't want to see me and I won't get a straight answer. He also just told me that "B" has been married for 17 years to one woman and "A" married a different woman just three years ago. He's afraid he'll go to jail for having two wives if he tells anyone so he's not really sure what to do about that particular situation.
I think all the bed time could be seen as depression perhaps? From what I've read he also had OCD. His lotions are lined up perfectly, largest in the back smaller ones up front. Same with his deodorants, colognes, etc. I watched him one day place a dining room chair that I had moved directly back into the original holes in the carpet that the chair legs had made. It was like it was irritating to him that the legs weren't placed back exactly as they had been. He makes his bed a very specific way with a special way for the corners of the bedspread lay.
I've been trying to be very supportive of him and have been reading online for two days now trying to find out what's up and how to help him. Sometimes it gets very hard on me though. Especially when he's mean and when he disappears on me and I don' see or hear from him for two weeks at a time. At first I thought he was a typical game player but now I know that's not the case. I'm trying to hang in there but there are times that I get scared because I don't know if "B"/The Mean One would hurt me or not.
It feels a little better now to be able to get it some of this out. Thanks for listening.
I'm just really confused. Should I go on with this relationship I'm having with the alter? Or should I stop?
Know that you're not dealing with the same person, they're a completely different person when they switch and you should respect that and understand that, maybe even get to know them.
I know I've been rambling about this, i just wanted to touch on some different aspects of complexity without getting too deep. Hopefully this post offers some insight about how real this condition is. This from a man who's spent an entire lifetime loving his elementary school sweetheart with MPD.
1) Every Thursday or Sunday on prayer time he switched himself as "Sai Baba" (one famous Indian Saint) and then he started to praying in Urdu (different from our lenguage). Not one Baba comes into him there are many other Baba's also into him.
2) He ask family members life especially my sister in law. She has a problem of Hysteria. Everytime these personalities used to say good for her as I understand he loves his daughter very much. If during a week any body in family has done something wrong with her these personality start to angry in behalf of my sister in law. These personalities used to say we should get proud that we come at your home its god blessing and then start to self appraisal. Rather then my father in law's nature is very different. Mostly he remains calm sometimes he become angry but normally he is calm and jolly in nature.
3) These personalities remain within him around 30 to 60 mins after that my father in law didn't remeber anything what happended. Yes he knows that Baba came but what happened after that completely forget.
4) One more thing under these Baba's personality he/they used to give solution of our problems but once solution not works they didn't take any responsibility for that and all things blame to God.
5) Sometimes my father in law's mother also came into him, and he started like talking in our lenguage in lady voice. This happen only when Baba's solution not works Father in law's mother came if we blame on him.
I understand all these is psychiatry problems of multiple personality. Can you please brief.
I have a strange question... one of MY blood relatives revealed to me that she hears a male and female voice talking to her... she further described it as "seeing the voice" and has admitted to seeing hallucinations.
I asked my wife and the alters what they thought. The committee thinks that my relative DOES NOT have alters. We are thinking that she is instead schizophrenic.
Does anyone know about "seeing voices"? The male voice told my relative in what month she was going to die. I am worried... Its an odd turn of events.. The alters are the NORMALS in my life!!!
I have a strange question... one of MY blood relatives revealed to me that she hears a male and female voice talking to her... she further described it as "seeing the voice" and has admitted to seeing hallucinations.
I asked my wife and the alters what they thought. The committee thinks that my relative DOES NOT have alters. We are thinking that she is instead schizophrenic.
Does anyone know about "seeing voices"? The male voice told my relative in what month she was going to die. I am worried... Its an odd turn of events.. The alters are the NORMALS in my life!!!
There IS HOPE FOR A HAPPY, FULFILLING LIFE! My wife has a good job and many friends.. she can relate to many many different types of people. She chose a career that allows her to work privately as a HR professional. She deals with people one at a time for short periods. This allows the committee to become aware to put their "best foot forward" every time.
I notice that when he 'switches', his accent and voice depth of voice also changes sometimes. He will be quiet and shy or argent and cocky, sometimes dramatically emotional. If we are talking and something bothers him in the conversation or we get too close to something he doesn't feel comfortable talking about, his personality changes as well as his accent and voice. It can get really confusing sometimes. He also seems forgetful and doesn't remember conversations, or parts of conversations, we have had, and I have to tell him to go back and look at the emails he has sent me. He often avoids any company and locks himself away in his place. He has had some horrific abuse in his life from childhood and has been in therapy most of his life. I'm worried for him but am not sure what I can do. I'm almost ready to put a distance between us as his behavior can be very hurtful and is causing me stress in my own life.
Prim: we call him prim, short for primitive. My husband had thought that he was simply all primitive and simple in the beginning, only wanting basic needs. But it terns out that prim is more intelligent than all three of them. His most dominant trait is actually how protective he is. He would kill someone if he thought someone he cared about was threatened. Other times he is just really lazy. (i compare him with a lion really) Sometimes when he comes out my husband wont remember anything that had happened. Although prim has the ability to share memories with my husband. Prim actually came out during my husbands childhood i have found out. He had blacked out and prim had really beat up this one kid who had insulted his mother... other than that he hasnt really come out much before my husband started dating me. The way i can tell when prim is out is by his tone of voice mostly. It is slightly deeper. Also his eyes seem to change, but i cant pinpoint how. And his posture will change. Although sometimes prim will act silly and seem more like my husband, he's not and it annoys him when i get them confused. But prim loves me probably as much as my husband does and i love all three about the same. We all pretty much coexist nicely. They don't bother my husbands life at all.
Blood: Blood short for blood thirsty. and in the beginning he was just that. He had constant thoughts about how he could hurt people, simply because he liked it. This one scared my husband much more than prim, even though he wasn't as strong as prim. He was at first reluctant to even let me meet him. When i did finally meet him though i was so intrigued to find out that he has an irish accent. He has choked me before, but prim stopped that right when it happened. (prim kind of knocked him out from the inside and took over) But blood has changed after being out more often. He's not even really blood thirsty at all anymore. Even his accent is not so prominent, although its there. I fear that he is blending, and might just disappear. I really don't want him to. (minus the fact that he is prone to dangerous acts, he is really fun to be around) Two days ago he decided to go "dormant" to see if maybe rest will help restore his former self. I hope it does. I'm not really scared of him at all because i know prim will protect me. (plus i know that he's started loving me too, even if its not as strong as the other two)